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All Starfield romance options and how to romance companions explained

How to find love amongst the stars.

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You can do many things in Starfield. You can traverse galaxies, raid enemy bases, and even fall in love. Who doesn't love a good romance story set in space?

There are four characters you can have a romantic relationship with in Starfield. They're all members of Constellation, Starfield's main faction. Where Baldur's Gate 3 went wild with romance options like making out with a bear, Starfield decides to keep love simple and realistic.

Below you'll find a list of all Starfield romance options, along with how to romance, and information on romancing multiple companions and romance in New Game Plus.

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Starfield romance options

There are four romance options in Starfield:

While the flirt option might appear when speaking to other characters, none of these interactions lead to a committed relationship like the four Constellation companions do. So those named companions you've been recruiting in your travels unfortunately seem to be non-romanceable.

All four romance options are available no matter what pronouns your character has.

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Here's more information on each romance option in Starfield:

Sarah Morgan

Sarah Morgan is the leader of Constellation. She's a strong woman who leads the group to learn more about the Artifacts and humanity's role amongst the stars. Sarah has a strong sense of morality and empathy, and can tell when things are going too far.

She'll often ask the player more philosophical questions, and it's important to be empathetic in return to her.

It's equally important to have Sarah wait somewhere, or dismiss her as a companion, if you're about to do something illegal for no good reason (like murder). If you don't, she will probably 'dislike' your actions, which can slow down romance progress, or end it all together if you do something she really doesn't like.

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Sam Coe

Sam Coe is a member of the Freestar Collective with a strong sense of justice. Throughout the game, you'll encounter situations such as deciding whether to let a criminal run free. Sam is quite the absolutist when it comes to issues of right vs wrong, and thinks if you do the crime, you should do the time.

Most of the time, Sam will dislike actions that go against his ideals. So letting that criminal run free probably won't get you on his good side. He seems to have one soft spot though: his daughter.

So make sure you get Sam to wait somewhere, or dismiss him as a companion, if you're about to do something that goes against his moral code. We recommend leaving Sam behind when on quest chains like the Crimson Fleet, as it's quite hard to win his approval, and very easy to lose it, while on these morally dubious missions.

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Barrett

Barrett is the first member of Constellation you meet when you start your journey. In fact, he's the one who gives you your first ship! Barrett is a fun and easygoing individual compared to other Constellation companions, and doesn't mind if you steal or pickpocket in front of him.

However to raise affinity with Barret you still need to be kind while adventuring with him. He may be more laid back, but we still recommend leaving Barrett behind or dismissing him as a companion if you think certain quests might force you to make a 'bad' decision in front of Barrett.

If Barrett asks for money when you're speaking with him, be sure to give it to him in order to raise his affinity and unlock his personal quest sooner.

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Andreja

Andreja is the last member of Constellation eligible for a romantic relationship with the player. She's a very mysterious person and you'll have to progress through the main mission, Into The Unknown, to meet her.

Andreja likes honesty and helping innocent people, so don't lie to her, and don't hurt people who don't deserve it while travelling with Andreja if you don't want her to 'dislike' your actions. This will result in lost affinity and slow down romance progress with her, or end it all together if you do something she really doesn't like.

However, Andreja doesn't like it when criminals escape justice, so take her along if you plan on delivering that 'justice' to them and Andreja will approve.

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How to romance in Starfield

To romance a companion in Starfield you have to have them as your active companion, and then perform actions and say things that they like to raise affinity with them. It's also important that you don't do anything that your romance option dislikes, or you can lose affinity with them (or lock-out a romance with them altogether if you do something they really don't like).

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Rank 1 of the 'Leadership' skill can help with this, as companions gain affinity 25% faster when it's unlocked.

To make sure you're on the path to romancing a companion, you should use the 'Flirt' option when it appears. You don't need to do this all the time, but we do recommend you flirt at least three times to ensure you're making your romantic intentions known.

However, certain flirt options can actually extend the amount of time it takes to romance a companion, as dialogue choices without the 'Flirt' tag might be more in-line with what that companion likes. In our testing, flirting doesn't make companions dislike your dialogue choice in these situations, but you're also not getting all the 'like' affinity possible in a conversation.

When you reach a high enough affinity with a romanceable companion, or certain story events occur, they will ask to speak with you. If you miss this prompt, check the 'Activities' mission tab to see if the quest to talk to a companion is there. You can also track their location from here.

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These conversations are an easy way to raise affinity with your romance option, so we recommend saving before talking if you want to test out what the best dialogue options to pick are.

Once you've had enough of these conversations with your romance option and their affinity is high enough, they will tell you something important about them and their personal companion quest will now be available.

Complete this personal quest and tell your romance option that you love them to lock-in a romance with them. When you get the activity to speak with your romance option again, a new 'Commitment' option will appear. Choose this if you want to fully commit to a companion and go through a ceremony with them.

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Once this ceremony is over, you can now 'sleep' with a companion by your side to get the 'Emotional Security' buff instead of the 'Well Rested' buff. Emotional Security gives you a 15% XP boost.

Do keep in mind that just because you're committed to a companion, you can still do things that they dislike, which can end your relationship. You can use the persuasion system to win their affections back, but we still don't recommend going on a crime / murder spree in your spouse's presence. That can't be good for the relationship.

Can you romance multiple companions in Starfield?

Yes, you can romance multiple companions in Starfield at the same time, but you can't commit to multiple romance options at the same time. So, you'll have to pick a single romance eventually if you want to complete an individual romantic subplot.

You'll know you have to make a decision on who to romance completely when the 'Commit' option appears while speaking with a companion, or another companion tells you that they can't enter a relationship if you have feelings for somebody else.

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We haven't had the chance to test it ourselves yet, but you might be able to commit to multiple companions by going through with the ceremony and then breaking up with them after. Then, it might be possible to pursue another romance option. We highly recommend saving before doing this, just in case you aren't able to start another romance.

Does romance continue in New Game Plus in Starfield?

No, your romance with a companion does not continue into New Game Plus in Starfield. However, you can choose to romance them again during this new playthrough. Make sure you choose the option to not skip the story, as completing some of the missions are essential to progressing with all four romances.

However, this does mean you can also pick a completely different companion during a New Game Plus run without having to create a new character, or worry about clashing romance decisions.

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